Let’s quickly go through what is happening right now. It is 5 a.m. in the morning, I am not a crazy person to be up at this hour, and my brain is working relatively slowly since I stared at the screen for 2 mins before opening a word document. I am fascinated by the fact that I could hear a train passing by the Union station. The noise of the wheels hitting the rails harshly, I enjoyed. Very similar to what my heart experiences. Hitting the rails pretty harshly… moving, hurting, learning.
Here are some tips for survival,
- Stand with your own truths.
This is a big deal that I hope you do not have to find it the wrong way. When I was 18, I messed up quite a lot of times. Freshmen year at university, I messed up a million times. I figured it out on my own that other people’s truths do not have to be mine. They can make all the Goddamn decisions, I might judge a tiny bit, but I do not let it stick with me. Be in the moment, in the conference room, in the club, observe but keep generating your own thoughts. Be authentic, make a mess if it helps you learn, but find out your own way. Be the outsider, do not blend, make it colorful.
While having your own beautiful ideas, it is important to not be so uptight. It is hard for me to change my ideas about things I truly believe in. But there are people out there that are convincing. That is why it is important to get up and stretch it out. Go beyond your own boundaries, I am not saying do things because other people want you to. Make yourself uncomfortable for the sake of learning, I swear it’s great. Live a little. Explore other ideas but keep your own.
- Take the suit to the dry cleaner.
Or in Kendrick Lamar’s words, be humble. Nobody likes a big nose up in the air, swaying side to side type of person. I am not saying you are worthless, I am simply saying that the world does not revolve around you. Once you realize that, things get a lot easier. I walk to work every day seeing homeless people laying under thin blankets, trying to keep warm. I try to ask the security lady in my building how her day was. And, I occasionally take suits to dry cleaning. I cannot say I don’t enjoy getting out of the office for a little while for the way.
- Think fast, move slow.
Whether it’s the love and hate relationship between you and proofreading or trying to catch the later bus because you are early to work every day (I might be a unique case study for this one), or basically strategic/corporate/business/work related -boring- daily routines… things move slowly sometimes, even if you do not want them to be. Give it time, give it thought, it will not happen in the blink of an eye, but I swear things happen pretty quickly if you stop thinking about them.
- Know when people do not ask for your advice.
Oh man, I talk too much. If people do not ask for advice, do not give them advice. Quite frankly, they are not asking for it because they just don’t care. Don’t waste your breath on people who are not worth it. They’ll need to go back to step two and stretch before they can hear you. Pro-tip: If you like them enough, be the leaning shoulder and listen. They might be able to find their own way.
Me? I made it to 6.45 am so, I’ll head to work soon. I might need some coffee to get through the day, and I probably won’t be fine. But, you have a good morning for me, will you?